When we finally accept ourselves as we are, we find peace with ourselves, comfort in our own skin, and contentment in and contributing to our communities. You have things to do and pursue and contribute to this world. Let the messages of unworthiness have their say … then let them pass. Consider all that you are, and all that you believe you are not. Stand in front of a mirror and consider yourself. How do we move from attachment to commitment, from desperation to curiosity, from proving ourselves to sharing ourselves?īy first accepting and embracing ourselves - and our voices - exactly as we are in this moment. Where we can stop riding the emotional roller coaster of being defined by our singing and how we may or may not sound or be perceived on a given day. It brings us to a place where we can truly enjoy using and sharing our voices. Rather than the stress, fear and insecurity that come from being attached - from needing to be a great singer - self-assuredness grants us the healthy space and perspective necessary for true commitment and passion to blossom. If you want to create and sustain a successful and enjoyable career, believing in your worth is critical. Even the suggestion of inherent worth and success - without having to do or prove anything - makes many people balk, when in fact, we are all worthy just as we are, however we are. These tendencies preclude many of us from recognizing that we already are and have always been enough. As a culture, we place personal striving and success over and above familial and communal participation and enrichment, leaving us feeling isolated and unsettled. In the West, this is further compounded by our individualistic and independent tendencies. It prevents the healthy emergence of confidence, curiosity and self-discovery. This focus on (and obsession with) how “good” and “talented” we and others are breeds competition and insecurity. There is an added cultural component that begins in childhood and comes into play for singers, and indeed, for all of us: we intertwine our personal value and sense of worth with notions of talent and success.
Cultural notions of talent and success have a huge impact Our pasts, our current circumstances, and our relationships – and the stories that we tell ourselves and others about all three – play a huge role. There are of course many reasons why we human beings aren’t at peace with ourselves. In fact, while we all have our moments of uncertainty and self-doubt, I think that self-knowing, confidence and comfort are the cornerstones of being professionally and personally successful.
#EMBRACE YOURSELF SKIN#
Many of us singers assume that being insecure and uncomfortable in our skin is ‘normal,’ particularly those of us embarking on performance careers. “I don’t believe I’m attractive or talented enough.”Ĭan create muscle tension that not only leads to physical discomfort, but to vocal challenges as well.įeeling insecure and uncomfortable is not a requirement Results in the holding of breath and holding back of energy, and the myriad issues that ensue. “I need to keep up the ‘I-have-it-all-together’ performer façade.” Hesitation-like desperation-manifests in the voice as powerfully as it does in the mind. “The stakes and expectations are too high too many people are counting on me.”Ĭan lead to self and vocal sabotage, often resulting in more significant adverse vocal presentations. “The farther I get, the more likely it is that people will find out I am a fraud.”
#EMBRACE YOURSELF PROFESSIONAL#
Keeps us from making ideal choices in our professional work can lead us to unknowingly alter healthy vocal production.
“I don’t think I can survive if I don’t make it.”
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